What is it with girls today? Don't they know that the "waif" look is out of fashion? No offense to the naturally skinny girls. Maybe that is just my opinion but, forgive me if I would rather be well-fed and happy, than fashionably skinny with matching eating disorder.

I am just concerned about women, specially younger women. It seems that it is an ongoing battle what we have with the media's portrayal of what is beauitful and glamorous "hollywood" style. I firmly believe that confidence is the main ingredient of sexy. You have to be confident about yourself and love what you look like on the outside, and what you are on the inside.

Living in New York, I am surrounded by "models" and I can honestly say that I have never felt less beautiful amongst these stautuesque beauties. I'm happy with my life. I'm happy with the people that I have in my life. Maybe that is the problem. Maybe these young women who try too hard to look a certain way are surrounded by the wrong kind of people. Or maybe it is they who are the wrong kind of people. Who knows?

If there are any young women here reading this, I encourage you to be a role model to your friends and peers. Love yourself. Be confident and be proud of your physical appearance, and shine brighter through the beauty of your personality. I never get tired of this even though it is one of the most popular and even overrated cliche's: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". It is not a cliche for nothing. It is one of the most true and honest things in life.

I have met women, and even men, who by the dictates of society's perception of beauty would be considered as unattractive, and simply 'not beautiful'. But then, I have had my 'bad hair days'. And during those times, or looking back on those not so good days of my life, I always think that regardless of what I look like today, and what I looked like yesterday, I am the "Me" that I have always been. My hair may be flat today, or I might have a little excess baggage down my hips now, more so than last month, but I am still the same woman who loves life, and loves people, and sees the beauty in everyone.

Those so-called unattractive people were not met by my judgment. Instead I choose to get to know them. I listen to what they have to say. What are their ideas? How do they perceive life? How do they value human life and life on this planet? How do they value themselves? What I find attractive, all BS aside, is a person's intelligence. When you find your partner in life, and you are fortunate enough to grow old together, everything beautiful about their physical appearance will wither and turn into nothing but flesh and bones, and leathery skin. And what you are left with are the conversations that you will have til your last breath. That is why intelligence is what attracts me. Because that is what will remain.

Confidence and Intelligence; that is what's sexy.